Comments on: Take A Chill Pill, Folks! – Ranting About Sensitivity Within the Community

By: Autumn

Autumn — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 07:24:54 +0000

Humans… they’re retarded by nature. Hell I even go far enough to include everyone that’s different from society’s “normal” in the same group. Polygamists, TG, CD, whatever kink/desires you’re into, homo, handicapped, atheist, non-white (at least in many parts of america still). We’re all people… people that are currently, at one time, and will be discriminated against because we don’t fall into the cis-gendered heterosexual white vanilla pudding… the divide between the TG / gay community is the one that makes me the saddest. Equal rights is everyone’s fight. Fighting amongst ourselves is counter-productive.

On a more positive note you make me chuckle… now if you’ll excuse me it’s only 11:30 so ima get a good hour of xbox in :p

By: Tiffany SiN

Tiffany SiN — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 00:50:42 +0000

I may be simply blowing smoke here but my thought is the need for the division is out of the innate need to be unique. As much as people need and want to feel like they’re not alone they at the same time have to be different. Whether it be out of a need to feel superior to others or out of some type of denial that they don’t have it as bad as others people will label themselves to seperate themselves from those they deem different.

Naturally not nearly everyone is like this but it sadly happens just the same. Think of it as “I’m trans-gendered, I need the support and help and attention because I’m going through the process of changing the body I was born with to that which is a match for the person I truly am trapped in here… Not just somebody wearing a dress and pretending”, or “I like to embrace my feminine side so I live my life en femme but I’m still a man and am not going to drastically change my physical body”, or even “I like to wear satin panties because they’re relaxing and are more comfortable than men’s underwear”.

Ultimately it is all unnecessary and does nothing more than hurt individuals and the community as a whole.

I’ll stop blowing smoke now. Though when we grab gold I may have to take my chances and see if I can avoid getting pwned by Autumn and eventually Melanie… I’ll take in all comers in rock band though.

You’ve put together a great community here and should be proud because regardless of TG/CD/androgeny you are a calming and comforting voice to all of us who feel lost and alone.

By: tiffany's wife

tiffany's wife — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 19:01:34 +0000

I feel your frustration as well. I don’t understand the division myself, but as the wife of a cross dresser, I want to thank you for what your doing. Your support for women like me is invaluable. About a month ago, I actually did think the sky was falling, and that my wonderful marriage was over as soon as it started. I felt alone, and isolated, and there was no way to see the end. I wondered if he was gay, if he had lied to me over all our years we had known each other. It’s people like you, and Melanie that helped me see that it was going to be okay. The world was not ending. My husband likes to wear skirts and stockings…big hairy freaking deal. It doesn’t change the person who’s under the clothes. You helped me see that, and I thank you endlessly for it.

Don’t let them get you down hun. Hold your head high, and know that you are doing awesome work here. And there will always be women like me who need your help, and appreciate your honesty *hugs*

By: Jessica

Jessica — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 17:38:27 +0000

Don’t let it get you down, the community that surrounds you is the community that you create. Just because seven voices say they prefer to be exclusive, doesn’t mean YOUR voice is any less important or valid. You have a solid ground as Wife of a Crossdresser, which to me translates into, somebody’s wife.

I don’t know why people create divisions that interfere with community and bonding, but I understand your frustration. Because I’ve been there too.